Book Review: 365 Thank Yous: Lessons in Daily Gratitude

Thank youAs we head into Thanksgiving week and the holiday season, I’ve been thinking back on the challenges and blessings of the past year. I thought I’d share my review of a book that has helped me in difficult times and may help others who find the holidays to be stressful or difficult: 365 Thank Yous: The Year a Simple Act of Gratitude Changed My Life by John Kralik.

John Kralik, is now a judge in California. But a while back, he wasn’t doing so well. He found himself in a bad spot. His law firm was struggling, his health was poor, his marriage existed only on paper, his girlfriend was going to dump him, his adult children weren’t speaking to him, and he was 40 pounds overweight.

Out for a lonely hike on New Year’s Day, Kralik had a last gasp idea to try to make his life better by being grateful for what he had instead of focusing on everything wrong about his life. Inspired by a polite note from his girlfriend – and a box of unused office stationery – he decided to write 365 thank you notes as a way to make him concentrate on the good things.

In no particular order, Kralik hand wrote thank you notes to his children, his clients, his employees, his friends, his doctors, and even his Starbucks barista. His life changed profoundly for the better. Without giving away the ending, suffice it to say that Kralik was doing much, much better personally and professionally by the end of his project.

His story is a little bit “power of positive thinking,” but much more analytical and far less woo woo than the premise may suggest. Good things happened to Kralik when he wrote his thank you notes, but it is clear that it was the efforts he made in connection with sending the notes that caused the changes.

For example, Kralik decided to start with what he thought would be an easy note – one thanking his older son for his Christmas present. But when he went to send the note, Kralik realized that he didn’t have his son’s address. They were so estranged at that point that he didn’t even know where his son lived. He had to call for the address, which led to his son inviting him to lunch, where his son finally paid him back $4,000 he had borrowed. It was the effort of reaching out to his son that lead to the beginning of a reconciliation, the elimination of Kralik’s resentment over the money, and, incidentally, the easing of some of Kralik’s financial stress. It was the thank you note project that set the ball in motion.

The book is filled with similarly encouraging anecdotes. Each will hit readers differently, some are more inspiring than others. All in all, 365 Thank Yous is a terrific, uplifting book that reminds us all to really focus on the good in life and to express our gratitude in simple, sincere ways. If it also promotes a proliferation of handwritten notes, I’m all for it.

Dumas and Vaughn Attorneys at Law has law offices in Portland, Oregon and serves clients in Oregon, Washington, Idaho, and other states.

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